…they don’t care what you have to say or what suggestions you have. They simply want verification and encouragement that what they’re doing is the right thing. This applies to everything whether its working out or dealing with rough times in a relationship. Whether you say anything or not, it does not matter because most people have their minds made up anyways.
How many times have you heard a girl wanting to break up with their asshole boyfriend or a guy being taken advantage of? Do things change? Most of the time nothing really changes and they continue their current habits.
Like my trainer says, “We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong, the amount of work is the same.”
From experience, it’s hopeless to lecture someone what they’re doing wrong and sometimes you just need to suck up your pride to help someone. No matter how nice I am, I really get sick of people when they complain how much their life sucks or how they’re miserable AND still don’t take any action. Really no one gives a shit how late you stay up because you were doing your homework or that you went out drinking and didn’t come home until 7 AM. You did that to yourself and that was YOUR choice so suffer the consequences. It’s different if you know that and are willing to accept it, but please don’t complain or brag about it.After I got back from Hong Kong I realized so many people do this, even myself at one point.
I’m tired of seeing people wanting to change something without wanting to take the smaller steps to make that goal. Sometimes its best to just shut up, try things one way, and see how it turns out. So save us the time, do your research, and just do it. No excuses.