How many of you guys have had that heart to heart moment with that person you had a crush on for weeks? Or maybe you’ve had your eyes set on your dream school or dream job?
…only to find that they didn’t feel the same way about you.
The most memorable was when my first “girlfriend” took a fat shit on my feelings.
“I didn’t date you because I liked you… I dated you because I pitied you“
Whether it’s in a professional setting or your personal life, rejection can feel embarrassing, shameful, and demoralizing.… AKA it sucks.
So how do we make it better?
Use rejection to turn it into something great.
Ok. I know what you’re thinking…
You’ll find all these hippie ass articles saying… “Oh use it as motivation to better yourself“. No lie. When your heart got A-town stomped on, those words mean very little in that moment.
So today I am going to breakdown step by step how I got rejected and still got a pharmacy job.
Step 1: Put yourself in their situation
Hearing nothing after an interview is a really shitty feeling. It reminds me of those Tinder dates where you get ghosted.
You’re left thinking …WHERE THE HELL DID I GO WRONG?
Interviews are pretty much like dates. You’re trying to see if you have a future together in 15 minutes. And also like a date most people wouldn’t waste time on going on a date if they weren’t attracted.
The same goes with interviews. If they were interested enough to ask for an interview and you didn’t get the job, the interviewer probably lost interest somewhere along the way.
A lot of the time, people go into an interview focusing on… I want this. I want that. It’s not to say that our needs aren’t important, but instead try focusing on them. What do they want? What are their concerns?
My interviewer was probably thinking…
Kevin is young with ambitious goals, but he doesn’t any results to back his shit up. Can this kid perform? Does he actually have any leadership skills?
No lie. This might suck, but this is why rejection is important. It forces you to be honest with yourself.
Step 2: Hustle so that they can’t ignore you
Instead of crying and watching PornHub, I started thinking of ways to prove my credibility and address their concerns that stopped them from hiring me. So I asked myself…
- What am I really good at?
- How can I help the people around me?
So I pitched a project to my supervisor.
Basically I took what I was good at (driving sales) and wanted to help make my fellow pharmacists and my supervisors life easier.
Starting a project allowed me to…
- Demonstrate that I’m driven and a straight up hustler (show, don’t tell)
- Create an action plan for my weaknesses
- Feel awesome helping people around me
Be creative. There’s no right or wrong solution. Just focus on helping and adding value to people and growing yourself.
Step 3: Close the loop
Want to know how to stand out from other people? Pay attention.
What most people do: When they interview and find out you don’t get it, that’s the end of the story. GG NO RE.
What I did: Instead of running away, I followed up and was upfront with my weaknesses. I provided also a plan of action if I was hired.
No lie. It’s can be embarrassing to follow up with someone that rejected you, but what’s the worst case scenario?
They’ll say no? If anything you’ll finally have a story ready for that dreaded… what’s your biggest weakness question on your next interview.
As Tim Ferriss says…
“What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do“
No means hustle harder
When a lot of people hear no, they quit and stop trying. But what a lot of people don’t realize is that no is just the starting point. When you hear no, that’s when the real work begins.
Maybe you can’t control getting dumped or getting turned down from a job, but you can control how you respond to it.
Finally don’t be an asshole to yourself. Whatever comes your way, you’ll figure something out. Trust fam.
So let me know your thoughts. How do you handle rejection? Let me know in the comments.
PS… I actually did a YouTube video awhile back. Click below to check it out.